Your Liberated Life

Maybe it's the ick that shows up out of nowhere, maybe it's the pros and cons list you've made three times that always comes out perfectly balanced.

Maybe it's feeling closer to them than ever on Sunday and by Tuesday you've convinced yourself it wasn't real, and you honestly can't tell anymore if you love them or if you're just scared to leave.

Maybe it's the Googling at midnight, "is it normal to have doubts", "shouldn't I just know", the reassurance from friends that lasts about twenty minutes, the therapy where you say you know it's your anxiety... and then you act on it anyway.

You're not fundamentally flawed, I promise

And the doubt? It's pointing you straight at the work.

That's what we do together.

Your Liberated Life Process

This is not coaching as you know it. It is the work that goes underneath the doubt, into the body and into the parts of you that learned a long time ago that being fully let in wasn't safe.

Most people who come to this work have already done the therapy, read about ROCD at 2am, made the list, asked for the reassurance. They understand their pattern perfectly. And something is still stuck.

That is because the knowing you're looking for does not live in your head.

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Six months of deep, somatic, trauma-informed private transformation work.

Three 90-minute sessions per month, with personalised practices designed specifically for where you are in your journey, delivered between sessions.

A container held with complete care, radical honesty, and the particular kind of love that doesn't look away from the hard parts.

We move through three pillars: getting back into your body, getting curious about the parts of you that want to run, and building a worth that doesn't depend on anything being perfect. There's no rigid schedule, it's a living spiral that meets you exactly where you are.

Open to men and women.

When you stop performing, everything changes, Not just the obvious things, All of it

In your head

The pros and cons list stays unwritten, because you've stopped needing it to tell you what you want
You get through a whole week without needing reassurance from them, your friends, or the internet
The loop of "am I the problem, or is that just my anxiety, or is wondering that also my anxiety" finally has an end
The relationship stops being a problem you're trying to solve. It's just your life, and you're in it

In your relationship

They do something that would once have felt like evidence of it being wrong. You ask about it calmly, they explain, you believe them, and you move on
You stop managing them the way you manage everything else, efficiently, at arm's length
You let them see a genuinely hard week, the unmanaged one, they don't flinch
The way they load the dishwasher goes back to being just the way they load the dishwasher

In your body

After sex you stay close, rather than reaching for distance because you suddenly feel weird
You come home from the best weekend away and on the drive back you just feel happy. Straightforwardly, uncomplicatedly happy
Saturday morning, nowhere to be, their arm around you, and you just lie there. Warm, quiet, fine
When the nitpicking starts, you take five minutes on your own and come back softer, no argument

In your sense of self

Your worth stops hanging on whether they, or the relationship, are perfect. You are no longer stressed if they do something awkward in front of your friends

Hi, I'm Lucy.

A few years into my career at JPMorgan, I had a total meltdown over a man I had been on four dates with, I couldn't get out of bed and I knew, even lying there, that it wasn't about him.

It took me much longer to learn that the harder version comes later, when you're with someone genuinely good and part of you still wants to run. I'm not going to tell that whole story here, some of it belongs to more than just me. But I know that loop from the inside, the doubt after the closest moments, the reassurance that never quite sticks.

I tried everything, therapy, CBT, yoga, a personal shopper, a nicer holiday, none of it touched the thing underneath - because the thing underneath wasn't in my head, it was in my body.

Then I went to a retreat in Italy, lay on a floor, did breathwork for the first time and life came back.

What followed was years of going further than I had planned to, deep somatic training, IFS, nervous system work, studying under Dr Gabor Maté and Layla Martin, and a willingness to go into places that would make some people uncomfortable to hear about.

I went there because the thing I found on that floor in Italy was so real I had to understand all of it, from the inside.